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Another year draws to a close, and as December quietly turns its pages, we find ourselves looking back—on dreams chased, promises kept, and the moments that slipped through our fingers. Writing, for me, has been my anchor in these reflections. It’s not just about sharing stories but discovering who I am through them.

It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog. This doesn’t mean I haven’t been writing; I’ve written poems, stories, satirical notes, and pieces such as exploring obsession with spending on weddings instead of education. As a result, I’ve contributed to two more books this year, bringing my total to four. Most of these works are in Hindi, which might explain why blogging has taken a back seat for me.

Writing is Expression and Reflection

Writing is primarily about expressing our feelings and thoughts that we might not discuss in our daily lives. As writers, many of us wonder, “Who has the time to read, absorb, and analyze?” Therefore, it is crucial to remind ourselves that writing, or engaging in any creative work, is not only about self-expression but, more importantly, a medium for self-reflection.

Year-End Reflections

As we enter the twilight years of our lives, we begin to reflect on our past actions and consider what we might have done differently—perhaps a little better. Similarly, as December unfolds, many of us experience a sense of unease: How did 12 months, 365 days, and 54 weeks slip away so quickly? Did I accomplish what I promised myself at the beginning of the year? Did I lose that extra weight? Finish the book? Apply for that dream job? Quit the job I never wanted? Start my own business? Find the courage to propose to someone special? Stand up against the injustices I have faced? And so much more.

Simplifying Life Goals

The positive aspect of year-ends is that they serve as a reflection on our lives, reminding us that we will have another opportunity—a new year—to make improvements. (Conditions apply: while we can count the number of breaths we take, we cannot determine the total duration of our contract with Life.) Unlike the twilight years, when we may find ourselves limited by physical or mental challenges, this isn’t a universal experience. Many individuals are courageously fighting tough battles and achieving victories at an age when most people simply await the inevitable.

Reflections on Loss

Reflecting on 2024 as if it were a movie, the post-interval plot took an unexpected turn for me. I lost my father after 24 years of losing my mother. This loss felt different; my relationship with him was not the same as it was with my mother. However, a loss is still a loss, even if it’s difficult to make sense of it. The reality is, not everything is within our control. Very little is. The pandemic has revealed this harsh truth to all of us. Yet, here we are, taking people and life for granted while treating our egos and material possessions far too seriously.

Resolutions vs. Intentions

I’ve stopped making New Year resolutions over the years. They often become an excuse for not doing what matters today and for postponing actions until next year. Instead, I prefer to keep it simple. The top priority for me is to become a slightly better human being. I ask myself: Am I managing my emotions better than before? How quickly do I say “sorry” and accept my mistakes? How long do I dwell on the fact that others don’t act the way I want them to?

Gratitude and Connections

In reflecting on this past year, I feel grateful for the people around me. I’ve received so many encouraging words from individuals I never knew. I also hope that my words, writings, and actions have uplifted the mood of others. So here’s to simplicity, gratitude, and the courage to keep growing. As we step into another year, let’s not wait for resolutions. Let’s start today—by being kinder, more forgiving, and a little better than we were yesterday. Cheers to life, to learning, and to all of you who make this journey worthwhile. Thank you for reading.

Let’s conclude with the lyrics of one of my favorite songs: “Aage bhi Jaane Na Tu, Peeche Bhi Jaane Na Tu, Jo Bhi Hai Bas, Yahi Ek Pal Hai…”